How did you spend your Valentine’s day?

I won’t lie to you. It wasn’t always easy being single on Valentine’s day. And like many single people, I still yearn to experience what they dub as ‘romance’ one day.

Which begs this question: In the midst of a culture that praises things such as relationship goals, what’s there for a single person to do during occasions like Valentine’s?

 

It’s February 15.

 

By now, several things would’ve changed: the Valentine’s day traffic would’ve subsided, the prices of flowers have gone back to their original price, the heart-shaped chocolates would’ve been eaten, the balloons delivered, and the restaurants would be waiting for the weekend just to have their fill of customers again.

 

Even now, I am still blown away just by how much one day—other than Christmas—could shake up an entire country, if not the world. And while Valentine’s day is a holiday usually attributed to the celebration of all things romantic, I find myself enjoying but for a different reason.

 

How did you spend your Valentine’s day?

 

I won’t lie to you. It wasn’t always easy being single on Valentine’s day. And even if I’m not a very affectionate person, like many single people, I still yearn to experience what they dub as ‘romance’ one day.

 

Which begs this question: In the midst of a culture that praises things such as relationship goals, what’s there for a single person to do during occasions like Valentine’s?

 

(And while we’re at it, let’s throw in the Christmas season and family reunions when your relative asks you if you have a boyfriend yet.)

 

My answer to that is a resounding YES!! And it consists of one word:

 

Celebrate!

Instead of comparing our relationship status to that of others,

composing daydreams of our future spouse,

or compiling lists upon lists of our non-negotiables when looking at a potential partner,

Why don’t we celebrate what we’re given in this season?

 

Not just on Valentine’s but even on regular days.

Celebrate your season of singleness.

Celebrate it by buying your other single girl friends flowers, chocolates, or in my case, coffee. Celebrate it by spending as much time with your family while you’re still available to do so. Celebrate it by building with other women and sharing stories of what God’s doing in your lives. Celebrate it by praying for others. Celebrate it by joining a community outreach or volunteering for a ministry. But also celebrate it by praying for your future spouse one day.

 

Because, like me, I’m believing that one day you won’t always be as available to do the things a single person could do. One day you won’t be free to spend Valentine’s day with your single friends. One day you’ll have to be considerate of another person’s needs before your own.

 

And when that day happens, your celebration as a single ends, and you’ll (hopefully) never get a chance to go back to this season. So let’s not wait until that day happens before we celebrate the season God made for us.

 

He has made everything beautiful in its time. 

Ecclesiastes 3:11

In Its Time

God is the author of seasons. God is the creator of beauty. Putting these two together, we can see that God is the one who weaves the times and seasons to make us more and more beautiful. This is precisely the reason why we can celebrate our season today.

 

If this is the time and season that God has made for you, I encourage you to not waste it by pinning  for something that was made for another time.

His plans and purposes for you when you enter the season of marriage will just be as relevant, significant, and beautiful as His plans and purposes for you today.

One is not greater than the other, both are just really different.

 

Don’t wait until this season is over before you start celebrating life. Live in this season, and maximize this gift that He’s given you. And one day, God will be inviting over another guest to your ongoing celebration with Him.

 

Valentine’s, 2018

Let me share with you how my Valentine’s went.

 

I woke up to go to work. My officemates, both single and married, greet one another happy Valentine’s day.

 

I sneak off to a quiet place in the office to do some more work. I come back to find that one of the women from the office left our whole admin team a paper bag of chocolates, and another woman left us all a bar of KitKat.

 

I grab late lunch with two of my good friends who happen to be my officemates. I receive a surprise text from a delivery guy that he’s in my building, claim the package he’s carrying, and find a mini heart-shaped chocolate cake from my girl best friend. I head out to buy coffee, and treat my friend to coffee.

 

I finish work. My officemates send a birthday greeting video to our dear friend and former officemate who is now based overseas. I bump into my four year old friend, and secretly hand him a chocolate-peanut bar (my other friend who happens to be his mom found out, and lightly scolded me for it).

 

I faced the dreadful traffic. I gave up on the traffic, and decide to walk because I was running late for dinner. Soon after, I am joined by my parents, my lola (grandmother), and my brother (my two other sisters had to stay home to study). My brother surprised me, my mom, and lola with a rose each.

 

We (over)ordered Chinese food, and barely have any leftovers. And as I reflected on the day that passed, the thought of celebration entered my head.

 

To be honest, I felt kind of bad that this article never made it for posting on Valentine’s day. But on hindsight, I’m glad this made it to the day after. Because celebrating singleness on Valentine’s wasn’t the point of this article; but rather it’s about celebrating on regular days like, say, February 15.

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