“My mother-in-law would always apologize before serving dinner when I was in attendance, saying, ‘This must seem pretty ordinary for a chef . . .’ She had no idea how magical, how reassuring, how pleasurable her simple meat loaf was for me, what a delight even lumpy mashed potatoes were-being, as they were, blessedly devoid of truffles or truffle oil,” wrote the late world-renowned chef Anthony Bourdain in his book “Kitchen Confidential”.Read More
“What’s your birthday wish?” I asked, as I turned to one of my closest friends.
We celebrated her birthday a few hours prior. Salad, pasta, and chicken. A handful of guests just enough to fill her dining table. No cake, I noticed. Or maybe that was intentional.Read More
And just like that, half of January is already over. But I believe it’s still not too late to start the year—or the remaining days of the year—right.
January always brings for me a sniff of fresh hope. It’s the month where people usually planning out the year, coupled with writing down their goals for the year. I wrote about pre-planning a couple of weeks ago, followed by how to start the year with faith goals too.
But, try as we might, our year never really turns out the way we thought they would, does it? We plan and plan and plan, yet some things are just really out of our control. In cases like these, what do we do?
As the year draw to a close and a new one inches even closer, I find a lot of my friends already planning for the coming year ahead. Just earlier this month, a friend of mine asked in our group chat, “How far along do you plan your life?” I had to pause before I answered, if only because I never really thought about it. I just thought it was something I did every year.
Are you a planner? I think I’d consider myself as someone who plans, but not obsessively. I used to be a lot more uptight about the way I planned, then I got serious about my faith and everything changed. I’ve since then only considered three simple things as I begin every year. It has saved me brain space and energy, because I’ve got these things locked in before the year began.
I have to admit that writing on busyness made me reflect a lot about how I spent my time. I wanted to change, but at the problem was, I didn’t know just how to. So I sat down with a colleague of mine who was gifted in strategizing and analyzing data. I laid out all the set commitments I had, and all the tasks I wanted to include in the week.
At the end of it, not only did I gain a saner mind when it came to managing my time, the exercise also allowed me to get a picture of the things I could do to improve other parts of my life. Charles Duhigg in “The Power of Habit” describes these as a keystone habit. If you fix that one keystone habit, then this dominoes into fixing the other habits tied to it. The key is to figure out what they are in your life.